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    January 27

    REAL FRIEND


     A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest. A real friend opens 
    your refrigerator and helps himself. 
     
    A simple friend has never seen you cry. A real friend has shoulders soggy 
    from your tears. 
     
    A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names. A real friend has 
    their phone numbers in his address book. 
     
    A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party. A real friend comes 
    early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean. 
     
    A simple friend hates it when you call after he has gone to bed. A real 
    friend asks you why you took so long to call. 
     
    A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems. A real friend 
    seeks to help you with your problems. 
     
    A simple friend wonders about your romantic history. A real friend could 
    blackmail you with it. 
     
    A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument. A 
    real friend calls you after you had a fight. 
     
    A simple friend expects you to always be there for them. A real friend 
    expects to always be there for you!

    January 18

    Discover the 10/90 Principle

     

     Author: Stephen Covey
     Discover the 90/10 Principle.


     It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
     What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90%
     of life is decided by how you react.
     What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to
     us.
     We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving,
     which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic..
     We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine
     the other 90%.
     How? By your reaction.
     You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction. Don't
     let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
     Let's use an example.
     You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup
     of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just
     happened.
     What happens next will be determined by how you react.
     You curse.
     You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down
     in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for
     placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle
     follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you
     find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get
     ready for school. She misses the bus.
     Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive
     your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour
     in a 30 mph speed limit.
     After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at
     school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After
     arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.
     Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and
     worse. You look forward to coming home.
     When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your
     spouse and daughter.
     Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.
     Why did you have a bad day?
     A) Did the coffee cause it?
     B) Did your daughter cause it?
     C) Did the policeman cause it?
     D) Did you cause it?
     The answer is "D".
     You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in
     those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
     Here is what could have and should have happened.
     Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say,
     "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a
     towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you
     come back down in time to look through the window and see your child
     getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and
     cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are
     having.
     Notice the difference?
     Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
     Why?
     Because of how you REACTED.
     You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90%
     was determined by your reaction.
     Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something
     negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water
     on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!
     React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result
     in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
     How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your
     temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering
     wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you
     try and bump them?
     WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin
     your drive?
     Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
     You are told you lost your job.
     Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying
     energy and time into finding another job.
     The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why
     take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over
     what is going on.
     Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed
     out? It will just make things worse.
     Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the
     results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is
     incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
     The result?
     Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems
     and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
     It CAN change your life!!!
     

    How to stay young


     HOW TO STAY YOUNG
     
     
    Its really sort of simple:
      
     1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height.
     Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay them.
     
     2. Keep only cheerful friends.
     The grouches pull you down. (keep this in mind if you are one of those
     grouches;)

     3. Keep learning:
     Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening,
     whatever. Never let the brain get idle.
     "An idle mind is the devil's workshop."
     And the devil's name is Alzheimer's!
     
     4. Enjoy the simple things.
     

     5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
     And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spend lots and lots of time
     with HIM/HER.
     
     6. The tears happen:
     Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person who is with us our entire
     life, is ourselves. LIVE while you are alive.

     7. Surround yourself with what you love:
     Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever.
     Your home is your refuge.
     
     8. Cherish your health:
     If it is good, preserve it.
     If it is unstable, improve it.
     If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
     
    9. Don't take guilt trips.
     Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county, to a foreign country, but
     NOT to where the guilt is.
     
     10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     
     

    January 09

    What's That Sound....?

    A man is driving down the road and breaks down near a monastery. He
    goes to the monastery, knocks on the door, and says, "My car broke
    down. Do you think I could stay the night?"
    The monks graciously accept him, feed him dinner, and even fix his car.
    As the man tries to fall asleep, he hears a strange sound. The next
    morning, he asks the monks what the sound was, but they say, "We
    can't tell you. You're not a monk."

    The man is disappointed but thanks them anyway and goes about his
    merry way.

    Some years later, the same man breaks down in front of the same
    monastery. The monks again accept him, feed him, and even fix his car.
    That night, he hears the same strange noise that he had heard years
    earlier.

    The next morning, he asks what it is, but the monks reply, "We can't
    tell you. You're not a monk."

    The man says, "All right, all right. I'm dying to know. If the only
    way I can find out what that sound was is to become a monk, how do I
    become a monk?"

    The monks reply, "You must travel the earth and tell us how many
    blades of grass there are and the exact number of sand pebbles. When
    you find these numbers, you will become a monk."

    The man sets about his task. Some forty-five years later, he returns
    and knocks on the door of the monastery. He says, "I have traveled the
    earth and have found what you have asked for. There are
    145,236,284,232 blades of grass and 231,281,219,999,129,382 sand
    pebbles on the earth."

    The monks reply, "Congratulations. You are now a monk. We shall now
    show you the way to the sound." The monks lead the man to a wooden
    door, where the head monk says, "The sound is right behind that door."

    The man reaches for the knob, but the door is locked. He says, "Real
    funny. May I have the key?"

    The monks give him the key, and he opens the door. Behind the wooden
    door is another door made of stone. The man demands the key to the
    stone door. The monks give him the key, and he opens it, only to
    find a door made of ruby. He demands another key from the monks, who
    provide it. Behind that door is another door, this one made of
    sapphire. So it went until the man had gone through doors of emerald,
    silver, topaz, amethyst.

    Finally, the monks say, "This is the last key to the last door." The
    man is relieved to no end. He unlocks the door, turns the knob, and
    behind that door he is amazed to find the source of that strange
    sound.

    But I can't tell you what it is because you're not a monk.